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Ava
Hey, uhm, my name is Ava. This is difficult to explain. I recently got into a fight with my parents. I think there might be something wrong with me, or with them, I don’t know. I came out as a lesbian, someone that likes girls, not boys, and it is not a phase! I know it is difficult to understand, but they won’t try. They say they’ll call social services if I get involved with my girlfriend again. At school, my friends and strangers ask if I will cut my hair short and wear plaid to look like other lesbians, because that is apparently what people do. The girls in my class look uncomfortable around me now, and my life hasn’t been more hard than this moment right now. I do not know what to do! It hurts.
Astyrus Advice
Hello Ava, we can see that you are having difficulties with who you are on the inside and how people around you react to it! There is nothing to fear, there is nothing wrong with you. What is wrong is the way people react around you. Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself with your parents. They should be loving and accepting, talk to a close friend or an older guardian about your troubles; a family therapist or a doctor. It is solely a stigma placed on lesbians that they should wear plaid and have short hair. Most lesbians I know myself have long hair and wear whatever they please! People around you will act uncomfortable at first if they are first to experience this type of situation second hand, so don’t be afraid of others and show them that you are still the same as before! Social Services is a program that saves children under the age from mental and physical abuse, and neglect. Be strong, and remember. You are you, nobody else. You shouldn’t have to change or be someone else to be yourself!